Sunday, September 28, 2008

Dating and Kids

When I first started this Blog, I thought I would post often, and post about 'stuff' in my life.
The reality is that I do post about my life, but can't get to it often.

I thought that in recovery, I would have my 'stuff' together and would move on with my life and lead a 'normal' life. Most of the time I do have my 'stuff' together and I do lead a 'normal' life. I go on with my day to day activities and do things to the best of my abilities. The 10th Step of AA says that 'when we are wrong we promptly admit it'. I really try to do that. If I make a mistake I own up to it promptly, remember the error and do my best never to make that same 'wrong'.

My life right now is pretty full. I'm a single mother, kids are 6 and 9. I work full time, then have a laptop at home that is connected to the server at work so I can work at night. My daughters are both in Guides of Canada; Leah is a Spark, Heather a Guide (and it's cookie time, too!). I'm taking an online law course to better myself at work. I'm the VP on the Board of Directors of the daycare that the kids go to. Both kids are in extra curricular activites as well. Exactly when would I date, even if there were someone I wanted to date??

A couple of weeks ago, Heather stated that I need to get remarried (okay, but I think I might need a date first). It boils down to Heather wants to sleep in, she does not want to get up at 6:45 and be at daycare at 7:45, to be picked up at 5. Her reasoning was very clever. When there are things that they want, or things that they want to do and I can't, sometimes I explain that 'those other people' (friends of hers) have 2 parents in their house. That means that in most cases there is more than twice the income. Plus, when one child wants to do something and the other one does not, it can't be done in a one-parent household. Punishments are difficult because both kids suffer.
If I were to remarry, then there would be another income earner in the house. I wouldn't have to work so much. I could go into work later. She could sleep in. Clever for a 9 year old!

The kids are funny when it comes to waking up and sleeping in. During the week, I am up at 5:45am. I shower, make lunches, and have my 'alone' time. On the weekend, I want to sleep. My rule is 'don't talk to me before 9am'. They, on the other hand, hate waking up at 6:45am during the week and always want to sleep in. On the weekends, they are up even earlier. Go figure.